We all know how powerful words can be. Think of the words in the Constitution or any other powerful document or book. Words can heal or they can hurt everyone. No one is immune from them.
Yet the words we tell ourselves are often the most harmful.
I recently read that when we grow up we model our relationship with our adult self- positive or negative what we got from our parents. Doesn’t that explain it all? I thought so!
Like many people there were times in my past where I had caught myself putting myself down because I thought I wasn’t as good as someone else. Or feeling a certain way when I told myself there were others who were worse off than me. Or when I would second guess my decisions or my feelings or both!
We all tell ourselves negative things all the time don’t we? Sometimes we do it so often that we don’t even know we are doing it. We think we are saying positive things like “I want to feel less lonely” we are actually helping ourselves to feel less lonely. Wait a minute….didn’t I just say “feel lonely”? Because that is what the universe picks up as your vibration. That is exactly the message you are sending out there. No wonder everyone leaves you alone and you feel lonely. What you really want to say is “I want to be surrounded by loving, caring people who have my best interest at heart”. That is a much more positive vibration.
Read those 2 sentences again and connect to your feelings and tell me which one leaves you feeling warm and fuzzy. When you are thinking thoughts about yourself and your life you want to have that warm and fuzzy feeling from the message you are giving yourself. Then you know when you send it out to the universe it’s going to feel good. You are sending out good vibrations, not bad ones.
Someone I know had a string of bad events happen over the course of a week. When I asked her about it she couldn’t understand how these things happened when she just recently completed an exercise I gave her to write down all the things she wanted to have in all areas of her life. The answer is simple. Because for the last several months if not year(s) she was sending out all the negative vibrations of everything she “didn’t” want.
Sometimes the universe takes it’s time to deliver to you what you want. Sometimes you will start to see things instantaneously (like a lottery winning). Seriously though, you will start to notice little differences immediately in your life once you identify what you want by using the “right words” to send the “right vibrations”.
It’s not just a matter of using the right words you must master a new way to “think” so that you can master a new way to “be”.
This is not just positive thinking, it is positive “be-ing”. If I can change from a pessimist to an optimist, so can you.
SO give yourself the love, attention and nurturing you never had as a child and become who you are truly meant to be. With love and light to you today, tomorrow and forever.
If you are want help getting started in using the right words here is an exercise to help you out. (Which Thought Feels Better – Abraham-Hicks)
Our feelings are indicators of our thoughts and beliefs are in alignment with what we desire. What a wonderful guidance system to work with. This exercise uses our emotions to shift our thoughts. The goal is to choose thoughts that feel better.
Every subject is really 2 subjects – desire and the lack of what you want.
You need to consciously identify the vibrational frequency of the thought. If is a negative feeling you are focusing on the lack of (blocking). If it is a positive feeling you are focusing on the desire (allowing).
Write a brief statement of something negative that occurred recently. Describe what happened and how you felt.
Write your allowing statement that amplifies exactly how you would have liked it to happen.
Keep these thoughts flowing. Now go back and identify the feeling(s) associated with each of those statements (same, slightly better etc.).
It is important to leave everyone else’s ideas, desire, opinions and beliefs aside while you identify for yourself how YOU feel!
Initial thought – I have to lose 20 lbs.
Allowing Thought – I am looking forward to having my ideal body and being a perfect weight